Truth be told, I haven't been on a date in something like a year and a half. Outside of a speed dating thing. This isn't really do to lack of trying on my end, things just haven't been going my way in that department.
After the break up, I needed some me time. I decided not to date anyone for a short time just so I can get settled in my kin and process the whole multi-year relationship ending. I jumped on the dating apps and sites just to see what was around town and who else was single and looking.
The problem with trying to dip in to the dating pool in a small town you have lived in for years is that everyone knows everyone. It isn't the best place to really meet people unless you are willing to date outside your date range and want more than just bar buddies.
The other problem, and this was apparently greatly on the dating apps, is that everyone who might be like you is living 2 hours north in the big town of Chicago. Seriously, it took me expanding the search that much in order to see someone who had some of the same interests as me. Not cool for me with the odds department in finding someone local.
Then I moved to Austin, and boom.
I started following just one or two apps at first, and found that there are a lot of either independent, business owning, 34 year old super models who are down for whiskey, Netflix, and dorky stuff. Also included, sky diving pics, pictures of their world traveling selves, Christian, fans of multiple group shots of their friends, and just plan spammer materials. Blah.
I'm now on 3 apps giving it a go. I'm pretty much swiping right on everything just to see if there are real people on the apps or not. The worst one for this is Bumble, where the girl makes the first move if you match. EVERYONE is a super model on it with the looks of a 20 year old with an age listed as 35. EVERYONE owns their own business. So if there was one I wouldn't recommend, it would be that one.
The speed dating thing was interesting. Here I was out looking for other single people ready to start something, and in the two times I went I ended up matching with this one girl twice. But any time we tried to set something up, she had to bail. Some background on the speed dating - you don't have access to each other's info unless you both like each other on the website after the event. She and I matched up two times, so I thought that maybe it wasn't a fluke thing.
So I've tried. From the looks of it, being single is just who I am going to be. I've been enjoying it, and maybe there is some people out in this town that are like me. But between going out, meeting new people, dating apps, speed dating, and just in general putting myself out there, it doesn't seem like there might be someone in this town who is interested in the same things I am. Which is weird, because this is a nerdy town. Maybe I'm not going to the right nerdy events just yet.
I'm sure I'll be talking more about this down the line. For right now, I'll continue to swipe right, like peeps, reach out and try to start conversations that begin with something other than just "hi" - which is apparently what girls want guys to do but when I try to reach out and talk about something they say they are interested in in their profile and I get no response - and try to see if something happens that way. I'm not ashamed in trying the apps, because there are some people you just wouldn't meet otherwise in this big city.
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